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Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

BabyDeer81 — Thu, 21 Mar 2013 09:39:39 -0000

Unfortunately, I have to deal with this. It's funny too, because supposedly this woman did not even want to take his last name because she did not want to give up her family name in that she'd be the last to have it. Then divorce comes and she wants to keep it all of a sudden?! They do not have children together either. Too bad legal action cannot be taken. I would not like to be confused with this thing either.

Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

dani — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 01:34:45 -0000

In my opinion, no child should have to make that decision on who name they want to keep. That's an adult decision to make. I never understood why people use children as pawns and excuses.It sounds line a cop out to me...what does their devotion as being a father and grandfather have to do with you keeping your ex husband last name? Personally, when I got divorced it was because things weren't right between us and knowing that, I wanted MY life back. I separated myself from the equation completely my children are a different story. They are free to keep his last name because they're not divorcing him I am.

Re: Is incest between siblings ever alright???

Geeta — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 06:08:34 -0000

Its cool

Re: Women depreciate and men appreciate

SexyLibby — Tue, 29 May 2012 19:48:34 -0000

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Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

Vetta1001 — Fri, 18 May 2012 07:22:30 -0000

So well put... love the hell out this post..
(clapn out of control)

Re: Question for Married Men… who are not afraid to be honest

Guest — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 13:48:31 -0000

Hey i'm almost in the same situation as you and i couldn't have said it any better. I'm also 25 and married to my wife for 11 months, she has made me the happiest man in the world.

Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

Doublethefunblog — Tue, 27 Mar 2012 18:42:39 -0000

I am keeping my ex's name after divorce. This is mostly because our kids have that last name, and the divorce is hard enough on them without them having to choose whether to share Mommy or Daddy's last name.

I've always gone by Ms and likely wouldn't have changed my name when we married, except thatI had my father's last name, but hadn't had any sort of relationship with years. I figure keeping my ex's name comes down to a similar thing. My former father-in-law continues to be more of a father to me than my biological father, and is a fantastic grandfather. My ex is a committed dad.

Re: Question for Married Men… who are not afraid to be honest

Bsta86 — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 19:53:10 -0000

Thanks!

Re: Question for Married Men… who are not afraid to be honest

mrggfep — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 19:20:19 -0000

Your comments are appreciated, best wishes on a long healthy future together.

Re: Question for Married Men… who are not afraid to be honest

Brandon — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 19:06:27 -0000

I am 25 she is 29
We were together for 1 yr and about 6-8 months before we got married
We have been married for 11 months

It makes me fee good to say that I have a wife. I feel blessed because I know that I married the woman that God intended for me too

It has changed my life a lot because with it being two people I have more money to do a lot of things now. It has also changed my life because I no have just me to think about. There is another party that factors in on the decisions that I make about everything now.

To me having a wife has made me a better man because she pushes me to do things that I've always wanted to do but put on the back burner. It also made it possible for me to do things pertaining to my dreams because the household doesn't insists of just my income. And I thank God that I have a wife that doesn't mind me taking money to pursue my dream and she replaces what I took with her income to make sure we are still good.

Being married has my life better because my wife is my best friend. Again I feel I am blessed because I have a wife that understands me. She is the same woman that she was back when we were dating. We communicate about everything and I can tell her anything. A woman can flirt with me at work and I can come home and tell my wife and the first thing she will ask in a jokingly manner is "Was her booty big?". She doesn't get upset or accuse me of anything she just listens we laugh and life goes on. She accepts me for who I am and she never judges me or nags me or anything like that. She allows me to be the man while still being a very strong woman. Even though technically when you are married there is no "My Money" but when she gets paid or wants to buy something with "her" money she still runs it by me first before she purchases anything. And if I say "no" she wont get mad or buy it anyway because it is "her" money and I know this because I told her no once to see what her reaction would be. She just said ok and life went on and then I went and bought what she wanted.

If I could do anything differently it would simply be to have married her sooner. It is very rare that you find someone who loves you for you and not what you have or can do for them. It is also very rare that you find a woman who is who she presented herself to be throughout the dating stage as the same woman you married.

The part about being married that makes me smile when I'm alone is that I am truly happy in my life. The way my life was then and where it is now, now that I'm married is such a big difference. When I smile now it isn't forced or fake when I smile now it is truly real and comes from my heart. Everyone who knows me noticed that my wife being in my life has changed me. They say I'm a lot nicer and I smile more. I look at life differently through renewed eyes this may make my "man card" to become revoked but when I'm not with her I miss her. I can't wait to get home from when I know she is there.

In addition unlike most women my wife was the opposite when it came to sex. We had sex a lot before we got married and we have even more once we got married. NOTHING is off limits she is willing to do whatever I want to do and she doesn't use sex as an punishment. We don't only do it when she wants too and I am not the only one that initiates the sex. So for me getting married was one of the best things I could of done. But, I unlike most men married the right woman because I wanted too not because she pressured me. My wife actually never wanted to get married ever and here we are married....happily married. I hope this shed some light on your thoughts and have a new perspective on married men and married life. God bless you my brother.

Re: Is incest between siblings ever alright???

Salvadore — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 15:42:57 -0000

Maybe because they were confused, or didn't know how to express love, maybe it becomes a habit, that neither knows is a taboo, (well what society says is a taboo), and i do agre that you should love anything that loves you, but only thing that may cause a problem with incest is the bloodlines i guess. When i was in highschool, we talked about incest and everyone said disgusting , ewww, everyone who commits incest should go die, but as I grown and understood the topic, its becomes very interesting. I think something triggers incest from an even younger stage. Like maybe one of the siblings became developing feelings for the other gender, but low self-esteem or other factors made it hard for him to interact. If its was a boy, than the closet gender he knows is his sister....you get what im saying

Re: Happy Husband,Happy Marriage

mrggfep — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:38:30 -0000

LoL... Well as long as you are both getting satisfaction who are we to judge? But why not be alone instead of "dealing" with a situation? When and where will you find emotional satisfaction?

Re: Happy Husband,Happy Marriage

marlene — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:30:40 -0000

What i won't do, I'm grateful someone else will. I'm hardly ever in the mood because I am not emotionally satisfied. Happy to have someone else pick up the slack. I am very tired of the man-child. I'd rather be alone.

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First time to see it and it was a heart warming movie. I really enjoyed watching it..

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Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

Mister — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 14:53:48 -0000

I was married, had a child then we divorced 1 year later. My ex still has my last name because she didn't want to bother with paper work and says that people may know she's mother of our child. Sounds logical...but its pretty insecure and lazy on her part. There are so many happy families out there that couples are not married and have children and the children have the fathers last names only. So there is no excuse for former married women to use the excuse of " Keeping exes last name for the sake of the child." And when I do remarry someday and have another child, my children should be the only ones who has the right to keep their last name. Not the husband or wife.

Re: Is incest between siblings ever alright???

Joannesummers — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 17:21:25 -0000

i to had incest with my brother we do it every night and when mom is out for the day we suck fuck and masturbate each other to i love the feel of my brothers cock as he gos in and out i feel his cock geting harder as he shoots his spunk deep inside my wet pussy we started doing this when we was young i was 12 my brother was 11

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Re: Is incest between siblings ever alright???

Eminas45 — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 19:28:26 -0000

My reaction is of sadness, grief and anger. why? because I myself am in a willing incestuous relationship. Yes, we get yelled and bullied, but as many people say: True love conquers all. Thank you for writing on such a hidden topic.

Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

ham — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 21:19:06 -0000

My wife still has my last name. And it bothers me. I send her e-mail, text messages and even written her letters to ask why. But I get no response. It's a simple question...Why?

Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

13ensmith — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 10:08:47 -0000

I'm dating a girl who is a divorcee. I've never been married. When I see that name, I see him. I see it just the same as if she were still wearing a wedding band. When I visit with her family, I have to bite my tongue seeing three names at the table. But she's indifferent on the matter. I'm at a loss on how to handle it.

Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

Schoolgirlb — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 12:27:41 -0000

Only a FKN LOSER would keep her exes last name...POINT BLANK!! Get your own identity (or in this case, RECLAIM ur old one) and hop off!! I'm sooooo glad men dont take womens names in marraige b/c I think I'd want to DIE if some man that I was no longer interested in, tried to continue running around claiming my family name...I mean, Who the fk would want to keep ANY ties with a person they no longer share a life with?? Obviously there your ex for a reason, whether u did them wrong or they did u wrong, WHY would u WANT to be associated with a failed marraige and name of a person your obviously not compatible with??? Nobody normal would do some bs like this with a regular ex so why is it okay to do it to an ex husband?? Can we say: OUT OF PURE DESPERATION?!?! These women use kids and career and whatever other excuse they can think of to cling on to the bitter end and whats worse is that the law recognizes this form as patheticisim as a legit reason and allows the women to choose if she wants the name and to basically legally STALK an ex and stay associated with a person who wants no association whatsoever... I'm being a bit harsh, but why should I be polite and politically correct when what these thirsty ass losers is doing, IS SO WRONG?!?! UGHHHHHH!!! IJS

Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

Cherylwhite5460 — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 13:15:46 -0000

If she is no longer married to him it is pathetic to want to keep his last name, the new wife does nt want to be associated with an ex-wife.

Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

Anonymous — Fri, 20 May 2011 18:36:28 -0000

I love this post!!
Sorry, I know I am not adding anything to the discussion but I had to comment because I really love your reply.

Re: Why would you want to keep his last name?

mrggfep — Fri, 20 May 2011 14:50:40 -0000

Welp, here we go....
First of all I was not taking the religious road, but since we are going there...I don't see the part where the bible says you can keep the ex-husband's last name until you re-marry. Nor do I see the part that says you are still married in the eyes of God until you re-marry. I DO see the part that says once you are married you are married until death. Further the bible seems to be pretty clear that Divorce is bad, very bad... and remarrying after divorce is pretty much a sin unless your spouse died or cheated on you. The bible is clear that Divorce is acceptable if your spouse cheats... and the Bible is clear that remarriage is fine if your spouse died and you remarry a person who has never been married. The controversy is in whether remarriage is acceptable if you divorced due to cheating. Some parts of the bible say that death is the only reason to remarry, and some parts of the bible say that remarriage after a divorce due to cheating is not acceptable, while other parts of the bible permit it. I doubt that either of us are qualified to determine which part of the Bible applies to our lives in 2011.

1 Corinthians 7:10-14 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

So what part of that says re-marriage (to another man) is an option?
And I will throw these in for good measure.

Mark 10:11-12 [Jesus] answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”

Luke 16:18 Jesus is quoted again, saying, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”

Romans 7:2-3 The apostle Paul taught that “...by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.”
Matthew 5:31-32 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.”
Deuteronomy 24:1-4, KJV When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife. And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.

Let's step back for a second...Really religion is not a part of this discussion, as our society is not monotheistic. The US is composed of Christians, Athiests, Muslims, Hindu, etc, etc.... Our court system does not handle cases according to your belief system...Our legal system, although based on Christian beliefs does not follow the principles of the bible to the letter. If that were the case If we are going to have this debate based on biblical teachings then its a whole lot of things we would have talk about before we get to "why would she keep er ex's last name." Just because you don't know my religious beliefs and because citizens of the US have many varied beliefs, and because that the Bible is pretty clear that the reasons for a valid divorce are extremely few, let's ignore religion and address your other points.

Your next point "but at the end of the day it is a right that the man has no right over"... Really? A right that the man has no right over??? Really? C'mon did you really type that?

And finally your point about getting her figure back after bearing his children... Well lemme see, I thought "they" had children... Unless she was raped she decided to participate in the activities that lead to bearing children. So if she did not want to ruin her figure either she needed to not be sexually active without protection... Or wait a minute... actually she can get her figure back after having children... its called diet and exercise... its called discipline and hard work. If you think that women can't get their figure back after child birth you really have the mentality of a lazy, slovenly human being who enjoys being the victim. You have to take responsibility foor your own life and your physical body. Nobody else ate that Twinkie... you did, you have to either learn to say no to the Twinkie, or run around the block a few times to burn off those calories. If a person can't say no, and on top of that they are lazy that person will never get their figure back... but it is 100% that person's fault, not the man who helped them to become pregnant. So this is not even a legit topic for discussion.

So to sum it up basically you said men have a Right to control who keeps their last name, although we should not have that right... and you said that if A woman can get her figure back then men should get to keep control over their name... and that has been proven to be possible... so what exactly do I need to get a grip on? It looks like you pretty much agree with everything I said... well except for the religous part, which I don't think you have a clear understanding of yourself...

Soooo.... I'll be here let me know what you think when you re-group.
P.S. its nothing personal... I don't know who you are